Category: Singles Spit Swap
I've come here looking for someone special - a beautiful, intelligent, and sexy blind woman, 20s or early 30s, for friendship and maybe more. I'm not blind myself, but I find blind girls fascinating. E-mail me if you wish: weylandcharles@yahoo.com
could you describe yourself a little?
And, i'm curious, why do you find blind women fasinating?
I'm 38 and currectly work in education in the UK. I love to travel, and to meet interesting people. I find blind women to be very fascinating, though it's not easy to describe why. I think they're more clever, resourceful, caring, and many, many other things. Obviously I'm not saying that all of them are always like this, just far more likely to be. I think they're infinitely interesting.
ahh, i see.
Well, good luck find her, I wouldn't say this is a smart place to look, but hey, who knows.
Why isn't this a smart place to look?
just make sure you really really, and i mean really, get to know the girl.
I intend to. I'm not interested in just having an "internet" relationship.
Charles how can you join a site and already be looking for companionship. You have alot to learn about the Zone before you even get started searching for Love on here.
1. Some girls on here tend to be known as attention whores / sluts (fish in other words), and you just sat the bait and it won't be long, til you have one on your fishing pole, accepting this offer.
2. Zoners may immediately label you as a desperate individual considering how fast this topic arose.
3. If you would like to find someone on here, it might be in your best interest to get to know them first, then make a decision whether you want to date them or not.
4. Another thing this place is good about the drama, which you learn very quickly.
I don't mean to offend you in any way, I'm just telling you like it is.
Ganondorf - Chris
Thanks for the advice, I'll take it on board. I'm pretty sure I'll be able to spot the genuine ones.
Ok, so here's the scoop, "zoners" are terribly, incurably, frighteningly weird. You don't want to date one, I absolutely garintee you that. So, now I've got to help you to spot a "zoner". First of all, "zoners" usually have public quick notes turned on where as zoners usually only have private quick notes turned on. "Zoners" usually show up as being online for stretches of five hours or more on a regular basis, zoners do not. "Zoners" generally have profiles that say a whole lot of nothing with many typos, punctuation mistakes and spelling errors, and even worse gramatical errors. "Zoners" will at first name off a string of five or more other "Zoners" or blind non-"zoners" when you ask them who their closest friends are, rather than listing people in the real world and or sighted people. "Zoners" will have exsessive amounts of points in general, and or excessive numbers of board poasts or public quick notes posted. You can check people's profiles and also the statistics section to find things like this out. Now, not all of these attrabutes make a "Zoner" it is when they are all, or when almost all of them are combined. There are other warning signs, but they are more subtle. The basic deffinition of a "zoner" is someone who is blind or visually impaired, who either because of mental disability, social stuntedness or an extremely sheltered upbringing has no life, or no life aside from the internet and sites like the Zonebbs. "Zoners" can also be spotted as they rarely if ever fail to miss a day of logging in. It has been my experience that non-"zoners" tend to run in streaks, filling time with the zone when real life gets boring or when something new comes along on the site, then returning to their real lives for a stretch before becoming active on the zone once again. These periods of activity and inactivity can last a few days or a few weeks, it depends on the person. "Zoners" define them selves by their blindness, rather than by who they are. If you need any more tips for spotting and correctly identifying zoners, please feel free to send me a private message here on the zone. That is if I am still alive after the "zoners" finish reading this board post. (Smiles and waves cheekily at the crowd.)
Oh Heather, you do make me chuckle. All of that is very, very true... Which is just sad.
*laughs* Wow! That was brilliant! hehehehe And in my oppinion, 100 percent true! I'll be the first one to admit that I was a regular "zoner" for the longest time. But lately, I find myself not logging in as much. lol I suppose my status as a "zoner" has gone down a bit. But yeah. I would never go looking on the zone for love but I wish you the best of luck. Just a thought though. I've heard that some sighted men who look for a relationship with a blind woman have this need to sort of "take care" of their woman. where as they couldn't do so if they were with a sighted woman. I guess it's because the man would be depended upon more or something? lol I forget where I read it but it was in some psych book. lol Anyone else ever came across that theory?
Michelle
I'll watch out for those "Zoners"! Seriously though, with regard to the most recent message, it's not any sort of co-dependency thing that I'm looking for. Most blind people I've met have been the very opposite of that anyway.
Wow, did you join this site with the sole purpose of looking for a blind woman as your partner in a relationship? I don't know about the rest of you, but I find that there's something eerily weird about that.
As a side note, I don't consider myself a "Zoner" by any means, however, I do have public quicknotes turned on. Does that make me weird? I do realize, though, that Heather, you didn't say that all of things has to be present, but that that was only a generalization...
I don't know about "eerily weird", but I'm a great believer in being up front about what I'm looking for.
Smile, I agree with Heather. Good luck to you.
yeah, best of luck...I guess.
oh my god. heather? just roflmao!
ok, yes, I fully admit I fall into several of those catagories. but at least I can say that I do have offline friends and other interests outside of the internet.
I think what strikes me as odd is that a fully sighted man would come on a site that is mostly used by visually impaired people to look for a partner. I'm a guy, and I'm sure I don't find that as creepy or out of sorts as some of the lovely blind ladies on this site.
But you never know, you've got vision on your side, and if you've got a car, money, a nice house, I suppose you do stand about as much chance of hooking up with a gold digger on here as you would on any other dating site. Although of course as we vetran zoners, or "zoners" how ever you look at yourself know, this is not necessarily a dating service, although it has happened and continues to do so.
I'm not sure what else to put here, so I think I'll just end this unless I think of something more clever or witty to say.
Oh wait. I just did. I'd laugh my ass off if a sighted woman who was using this site, made contact with this charles guy, lead him on that she was fully blind, then he met her and found out she was sighted. now that, would be priceless. would it not? Well, I for one think so.
So, I'm done now. have a very pleasant day.
The zone's favorite, Canadian Great White.
You said "I find blind girls fascinating."
Is it only me that finds a statement like this somewhat patronising? I mean, do we now think of blindness as a preference like body type?
I'd want to find a partner I love, not that I find fascinating.
Oh, and I think to many here, you now by now I think all these boards are somewhat desperate, why can't these people start by reading profiles, sending private qn to try and get to know people the way you would in the real world? Just seems a little freakish to me.
Well, it was certainly not intended to be patronising. And I too want to find a partner that I love, but you can't love someone you've never met or had any contact with, so you have to start somewhere.
roflmao Cam and Kev! you guys rock! cause I would have said almost the same thing except comming from a female side.
Well, Heather, that's your second truly funny post in three days! Good job.
Lol funny heather.
Charles, I'm not saying there aren't any nice blind women out here on this here site we call the zone bbs, but, well, let's just say there are lots of people who just like the drama and the gossip. You'll know the genuine ones though, if you can find them.
Anyway, best of luck to you, this feels like myspace all over again... *hides*
Thanks. Yes, I'm sure I'll know the genuine ones.
Well I'll say Charles you've stated your purpose up front and that's good, but I'll bet you'll not get any takers untell you join the site in the chatting department first. If you do please let me know by posting here and saying I found some women interested. Like MYspace and any other dating site, if that how your using the Zone you'll need to do some communicating first then you'll get to the rest. Now not like Myspace a blind girl can't look at your picture and decide she likes you because of how you look, so saying that if I were female I'd need to know "who is Charles?" I'll read that profile now baby sugar. *smile*
Nope nothing. *sigh and I really wanted to meet him too!
I truly would not encourage you to become involved in the "chat" on here. The best way is to look for female users that are around the age that you are looking for and that are in a location that you would prefer, by searching in the users' profiles section under the community heading. Then start reading their profiles until you find someone who shares your interests and whom you think you might like. Also many text profiles are also accompanied by audio profiles: listening to these may give you a better idea of what they sound like, if not what they look like. When you've found a few people that look interesting enough you should send them a private message here on the zone or an email through the links at the bottom of their profiles. Also, while you are listening to their audio profiles you can post a review, giving their effort and product a score and leaving comments there as well. You can also try striking up a conversation via the private quick notes feature, if you see that the person or people that you are interested in are online. You can also put them on person watch, if you are a premium member. That means that you will be sent an email by the zone when the people that you have selected and put on person watch log in. This may help you to not waste time waiting around on the zone for them to show up. If people have messinger or auditory chat program user names in their profile that is also a great way to start, but be aware that they will most-likely not add you back or may not even accept messages or conversations from you until they have checked out your text profile here on the zone. That is why it is important to fill out your profile as fully as you can and do so with a great deal of witt and intelligence. Oh, and aside from looking at text profiles and listening to audio profiles, another good way to get an idea of what someone is like is to read board topics that they have created or other people's topics that they have posted to. Instead of randomly scanning the boards you can also look on a user's profile to find a list of all of the board topics that they have posted to. This will include board topics that they them self have started. I hope you find all of this helpful in your search for someone special. If I can think of any other tips or hints I will post them here. Good luck. And, damn, now why do I post something to help this guy find a partner when I should let him struggle and keep the guy with the hot British accent all for myself? lmao
I think Heather's applying for the job too! :)
These are all great suggestions, but I understand the ladies on the Zone prefer to get to know a person through the public chats first and don't really like being approached via private mail and such unless they have talked to the person first. You Heather even posted on the topic about this stating the was so, but again good luck Charles and fill out that profile dude!
Yes, but if he gets a look at the publics he'll run screaming from the zone, never to return. lmao
And just think he want's a "beautiful blind girl!" hahaha
ROTFL Cam,
um, you tell him that this is not a dating service, and that you hope you he ends up with a sighted person pretending that he is blind, and then tell him to have a pleasant day!!! (that is funny as hell) um, but I do agree... lol, zone dating? that is scarry... all there is on here is drama nad lies... you never know what you are going to get with the zone.
rotfl Cam again (I think you are bi-polar.. jk jk jk hugs lol)
well that is just my oppinion...
o my god! I needed a good laugh today, and this board provided it.
one word --- unbelievable!
Hi! As some of the other zoners have said good luck!finding that special person. To me you sound like a nice guy. i'll have to check out your profile. Smile!
Blind girls are the best, break there cane or kill there dog and there yours for ever since they can't run away!
lol roman and Heather,
good luck to you charles :)
jared, blind and no cain. i'm sure i'd still find plaenty of ways to get the fuck away from you. hehehehehe smiles. i guess i have no worries. i still have both eyes. heheheh smiles
So crude and so politically incorrect, I love it.
Thank you everyone for your kind words - and in some cases amusing ones as well! I'm still looking by the way, and have updated my profile to include my MSN address. Please feel free to add me to your list if you wish. Incidentally, I'm actually a writer - and one day I hope to make my living from it. I've already had two novels published but neither has made the bestseller list, I'm sorry to say. One day perhaps...
I disagree with foreel - some women like men to be forward. Not crazy but cool... I wouldnt mind if someone wanted to talk to me in private... I am just not familiar with how to set that up yet...
I've onl been on the zone for a few days, and I'm already beginning to differentiate the "zoners" from the zoners. I'd like to start a new relationship, but I'm admittedly a little leery of finding someone here, for fear that all those who express interest in me might be "zoners." Lol!
Allison, be afraid, be verry afraid! lol
Lol! I am just a little, but I'm pretty good at defending myself from the advances of creepy guys. I've been doing it since puberty. lol!
There are, indeed, some creepy guys on here. But there are also some great ones for friendship and for more if that's what you're looking for. Just don't fall for the first bozo who flatters you. Really take time to get to know him.
Good advice. Thanks.
Just a piece of advice for Charles. Devotees can make a huge mistake by approaching their "targets" (no pejorative meaning intended) with too much haste. What works on a sightie works on a blindie and vice versa. Our sexuality with regards to blind girls is close to that of a 19th century young lady who has never even seen a man naked before her wedding day... or this is a tendency at least. I am not saying it is your case, Chris, but just be on the safe side.
Just to demonstrate my point, if I made such a thread, I would not say "looking for a lovely blind girl." That is fetishist and hasty. No, you must say and it must be true that you are looking for a lovely girl with whom you share much in common and whom you will be able to love... who happens to be blind. I hope this illustrates my point.
Hey, that's not always true, that woman on the Zone are whores!!! I'm not saying you said all woman, but that's kind of below the belt!!! But I do agree with you about people not being too serious on here, and the drama and stuff.
I also agree with the drauma and people not being serious on here.
I find this thread very interesting, espcially the post about the "zoners" and zoners. Frankly all I have to say is Wow. I certainly tell you who the "zoners" are and those that are not. I do not see any thing wrong with using this site to meet people and there fore if someone were able to make it into more than so be. There is alot of drama and things that go on this site that would make any person sighted or not scratch there head in confusion. the key of having a relationship, is that if indeed becomes a relationship then it must be kept off this site, when other people get put into the middle of things, that is when issues and other things can go wrong. There is nothing wrong with a man knowing what they want in a woman, and certainly us older ones who have been in long relationships already know what we want because we have the experience to know the difference. I am not willing to settle for just anyone, thus my singleness lately. Now as far as the blindness thing goes, yes this site is made up for mainly blind and visually impaired people, but for me, and this is only speaking for me. My blindness is not all that I am, I am much more than just a blind girl, or a woman. But I do know that, many people on this site are not secure in their blindness, therefore casing some the emotional issues that they deal with. Yes all of us have issues and or baggage but not working, or not leaving the house, or being consistently on the internet and only having internet friends is very limiting. Now before anyone jumps down my throat, i am currently looking for work desperatly. I have firm beliefs about this stuff, so my intentions was never to offend anyone. So if anyone including you Charles, granted you even visit this site anymore, want to know more about me, or anyone on this site, contact them, and get to know them for yourself.
just my two cents...
i am probably going to get banned for this, but, all who read this post, be very pidulant. You never know who you might meet, and some people are not always what they appear.
I totally agree with tear drop. Not everyone is always what they seem...
This man is an absolute creep, and perhaps dangerous. May I say right now, this, is not slander in any form. Stay away from him. Please, I can't emphasize this enough!!!
If anyone wants to know the truth of the matter - how I was conned out of a thousand dollars and later subjected to a campaign of lies and vilification, please contact me privately.
Um, wow, this thread has taken quite a turn.
you were conned out of 1k? that sucks donkey balls, fuck it tell us!